Welcome to the Girard Lady Yellow Jackets Girls Soccer Team website.  Over the past few years this team has experienced a tremendous amount of improvement due to the dedicated efforts of a special group of girls who work hard both in the off-season as well as the school season.  Through this hard work we hope to continue to see the program succeed even more.  
 

Nothing great will ever be achieved without great men, and men are great only if they are determined to be so. Charles De Gaulle

We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face - we must do that which we think we cannot. Eleanor Roosevelt

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. Albert Schweitzer

     This was on a website I visit.  It is not from a parent from our team but could be.  This is how important "teamsmanship" can be and how strong a team can be with it.  It's more then just playing. 

      I also wanted to tell you about a disturbing phone conversation I had this morning. My daughter is on a premier team in the third division, in a state in the Midwest. Tryouts are over, but we haven't started pre-season practices with the new team, yet. A girl (who I will call Sam to protect her identity), had been on the team last year, but didn't try out again. In fact, she hadn't come to the last practices and games of the spring season.  I called her mother (a month later than I should have) just to say "goodbye" and say that it had been a pleasure getting to meet and know them while she was on the team, and that we would miss her. Her mother thanked us for the call and then really opened up about why we hadn't seen her during the last half of the spring season.

      The team that our girls played together on is rather new. The team in her age group started 2 years ago -- my daughter made the team the year it started. Sam tried out and made the team for its second year. That year, the coach took only 3 new players - Sam being one of them. It is not difficult to see that the team is divided into cliques and the cliques within the team are usually made up according to the schools the girls attended. They all played together, but whenever there was a lull in the practices or when they were asked to pick a partner and warm up, they almost always gravitated to their schoolmates or longtime friends. They rarely partnered with someone new.

      My daughter goes to school with only one other player. Sam has no one from her school on the team. Apparently, as the season progressed, some of the more socially aggressive girls on the team decided they didn't like her. For merely the "sport" of it, they went out of their way to pick on her and make Sam feel more and more isolated and inferior. I have to admit that I noticed how often she was "alone." Apparently their disapproval and cruelty was the "kiss of death" and most of the girls on the team would rarely talk to her or partner with her. They frequently criticized her during practices and games, and held her to a higher standard (than they did their "friends"), immediately pointing out any mistakes she made or at least blaming her for things that went wrong. They made mean comments to her under their breath so she, and the surrounding players, could hear, but made sure the coach couldn't, and so on. Sam's mother said it wasn't everyone on the team, just most of them. There were about 3 players, including my daughter, who were nice to her. Since they weren't part of the big cliques, and they weren't included in the sneaky bullying, they unfortunately didn't grasp the extent of Sam's isolation, pain, and frustration. Neither did the coach until it was too late. A few selfish girls literally drove her off the team. My daughter and one other girl have also been a victim of the team's primadonnas, bullies and their minions -- the other girl had been driven off the team after the first season. I am glad my daughter is just too stubborn to let "them" win. It is really sad that the social leaders on the team lacked character and maturity, and allowed their behavior to damage the effectiveness of the team by sabotaging the self confidence of some of its players. When players don't feel "safe" and supported by their teammates, they can never extend themselves, take risks, and grow as players.

     My daughter is just starting 9th grade (as are most players on the team). Many parents of girls this age know that, socially, this is a difficult age. Girls can be very manipulative and mean as they jockey for social position during the middle school and early high school years (6th - 10th grades). This is also compounded by lack of maturity and sensitivity for what isolation and cruelty can do to another child.

     Because the social cliques within the team never opened up and accepted some of the team members, or because they never left their social hierarchy behind them when they came to practices and games, the team was destined to mediocrity. We never climbed the division levels like we could have.  We played with inconsistency. We lost to, or tied, teams we should have beaten. Sure we won our share of games, but we never achieved our potential. We never gelled as a team and as a "family".

      Unfortunately young teens sometimes mistakenly perceive kids that are socially aggressive as leaders, when they are not. And so the "sheep" on the team follow these bullies, these charismatic screw-ups, down the wrong path (apparently they would rather be their allies than stand up to them and risk being the target of their ridicule). How can parents and coaches teach kids and young athletes what true leaders really are?

     The true leaders are the ones who lead by example, not by criticism. True leaders share or take the blame when things go wrong. True leaders help build their teammates confidence by supporting and encouraging them so they feel safe to try their hardest and risk making mistakes sometimes as they grow as players. True leaders don't make criticisms, they make "suggestions" and these are done in a non-threatening way. True leaders don't tolerate teammates ganging up on other teammates.  True leaders try to raise the level of play on the team by always playing their hardest - they come to practices and games ready to play and they leave social baggage behind them. True leaders raise the team morale by trying to be a positive influence on their teammates and by never giving up, never pouting, never feeling jealous of another players success, and by being quick to give credit when credit is due.

     Sam is a tall strong girl who has a gentle quiet nature yet she could be very aggressive and effective on the field. I noticed through the season that she played with us, that she never seemed to play to her potential. Now I know why.

     Could you please touch on the subject of "teamsmanship?" Teamsmanship (as opposed to sportsmanship) is the art of being the best teammate a player can be. The reasons are obvious, yet too little emphasis is put on this as parents and coaches work to develop young players as athletes. They should also be thinking about developing them into young adults with character. I can't imagine the number of talented young athletes that may have dropped out of a sport because of the social climate on the team. What a loss. Unfortunately, so much of what is done, is done "under the radar" of the coaches - they never know what is going on because kids can be sneaky. They don't want the coach to hear their nasty comments to their teammates. Plus, kids often don't tell the coach when they are being picked on because they are afraid of being a tattle-tale, looking weak, or they are just plain embarrassed that they are a victim. I guess the coaches have to look for the warning signs: If someone often needs help finding a partner. If someone starts missing practices and games. If they seem more quiet or always standing to the side of the groups of teammates when they gather in the down time. If they consistently "play it too safe" on the field and don't seem to grow or are afraid to take risks or be aggressive.  Lawrence, I am sure that you can think of many more warning signs.

      Hopefully you will find this story worthy of being the subject of one of your helpful newsletters. I am sure you can offer a lot of insight and guidance to the coaches and players out there. I really feel this is important and that it is not addressed by coaches as often as it should be. As I said before, "teamsmanship" can mean the difference between a great team and a mediocre team, regardless of the caliber of athletes that are on the team. If you have already covered this topic before I became a subscriber, I would appreciate it if you could give me the link to that archived newsletter.

     Thanks so much for your time and consideration. We really look forward to your future newsletters.

Sincerely, a concerned parent.

   No matter what we do, there has to be a certain amount of desire to do it, and to do it well.  We can refer to that desire as heart also.  What are you willing to do to become successful and good at what you do?  At times it seems to be really missing this season.  The latest indoor league and Penn State Behrend Tournament should have us scratching our heads trying to come up with answers.  But we continue to just do "just enough to get by" in practices and games.  We all lead by example.

   If you are standing there during a practice and everyone is suppossed to be on their toes, and they are not, what are your choices?  You can stop being on your toes and join the rest of the crowd.  That's the easy way out and doesn't require a lot of work.  Or you can be the one leading everyone else and telling them to get on their toes.  Hopefully everyone follows your lead and gets to work.  The saying "in union there is strength" becomes important here if you can achieve getting your teammates to follow you.  Remember, it's Lead, Follow, or Get Out Of The Way.

   The Off Season Attendance handouts, the Wins and Scoring handout, and the Juggling handout have all been updated.  Go to the Handouts section on the left hand side and click on a underlined hyperlink.  See where you stand, who you are grouped with, and see if you are "Leading", "Following", or just "Getting Out Of The Way".

   The 2006 Girard Lady Yellow Jackets received the NSCAA High School Team All Academic award (Click on the above underlined hyperlink in the heading to go to the website).  A total of 412 soccer teams (152 boys, 260 girls) from throughout the United States have earned the NSCAA Team Academic Award for exemplary performance in the classroom as a team during the 2006-07 academic year. Among these programs are 60 schools receiving honors for both their boys and girls teams.

   To qualify for the award, the team must have a minimum grade point average of 3.25 for the entire academic year. The team GPA is determined by adding every player's GPA, then dividing by the number of players

    This is quite an achievement and shows we can compete in the classroom as well as on the soccer field.  Great job ladies!!  We need to work hard every year so we can continue to win this award.

   Allison Seppala was chosen for the Erie Times-News All-District 10 Team.  This team is made up of all three regions in the area and includes McDowell, Mercyhurst Prep, Fairview, Villa Maria, Slippery Rock, and Wilmington.  It takes a lot of dedication and hard work to achieve this honor.

   This will be the second Girard player to receive this honor in the past three years.  Rebecca Waterhouse received the award in 2005. 

   Congratulations to Allison Seppala!!

   Allison Seppala was chosen for the First Team Offense All-Region team for Region 2.  Allison Seppala has scored 101 goals in her career at Girard.  In 2005 Allison Seppala made Second Team Offense All-Region and in 2006 Allison was chosen First Team Offense All-Region. 

   Lindsey Thayer was chosen as the Second Team All-Region Goalkeeper for Region 2.  This is Lindsey’s first time being chosen for All-Region.  Lindsey finished the season with a 1.25 Goals Against average.

   Click on the underlined headline above or go to www.girardsoccer.org and visit the new Girard Soccer website.  It includes both the girls and boys programs with game scores, practice schedules, and scoring leaders. 

   Mr. Eric Warner has created the website for the soccer program and it is obvious he definitely knows what he is doing.  He will include player profiles and bios (this will help with college coaches indentifying players) plus game stats and coaches comments.

   Take a look as it is very good and well done.  Thank you Mr. Warner!!